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Married Life & WidowhoodOn March 1, 1869, Mary married William Graham, a Civil War veteran and neighbor, in Townsend, New York. She was 27 and he was 31 years old. Mary was acquainted with his sister Elizabeth, if not William, since before 1860. Upon their marriage, William moved into Mary Platt's family homestead and received a share of the farm.Mary and William had two children, Hiram Hovey and Sarah. William's premature death in 1877, at the age of 40, left Mary a widow with two small children - age 6 (almost 7) and 2 years. Mary's elderly father died in 1883 and her invalid mother in 1886. Mary never remarried. As stated in Mary's pension application, the farm included 106 acres and was valued at $2000 in 1900. It was her family's sole source of sustenance. Life was hard on that farm. According to Mary's granddaughter Irene,"it was such a little farm. I do not know how they made a living. They must have had lots of chickens, as I remember at family dinners Dad would always pass on the chicken as he said he had had his fill in early life."To put some hard numbers on their poverty, the following was stated in Mary's pension application: Personal property consisted of $500 of furniture, farming implements and stock plus $500 in US Bonds. Gross yearly income does not exceed $200 out of which must be paid taxes and repairs. This leaves a net income of $100. Produce of the farm included wheat, oats, potatoes, butter, wool, pigs, calves and other livestock.
Mary wanted to educate her son and sent him to school 13 miles north in Dundee in a horse and buggy. Hiram finally had to quit school when she could not get help in running the farm. He self educated himself from that beginning, becoming a political power in Schuyler County and was elected a member of the State Assembly (lower legislative body) in 1918. In 1983, Hiram's only son, Joseph Graham, described him as "pretty well known as a raconteur and he enjoyed nothing more than getting together with a group of three or thirty to tell a humorous episode." Mary died in 1905 at age 62. |
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